And Impulsivity And How To Control Them"
BPD Anger And Impulsivity Can Be Controlled
And Start Healing Your Relationships...
By Michael Weisz
The anger and impulsivity bouts are the
least frequent of the borderline personality
However when they do occur they are very
damaging in relationships. So exerting a
more efficient control and management over
your emotions and behavioral reactions is
going to help you preserve your social and
romantic relationships, thus leading your
self-esteem to thrive, the overall quality
of your emotional life will improve, and
you'll also get the love, attention, and
appreciation that you need from others
People with borderline personality get angry
and impulsive only when all the other
self-soothing, calming, control, and
management strategies have failed.
These episodes usually occur after a longer
while in the Detached Protector Pitfall.
this pitfall, people with BPD disconnect
from their emotions and give up on their
needs as a strategy to gain others'
attention, love, respect etc.
Although a detached BPD person might get
others' validation for being so "cool" or
"needing so little", the repressed emotions
and needs make emotional tension,
frustration, and anxiety to gradually build
up to the point of no control.
This build-up phase of the emotional tension
can span from a few hours up to days or even
Now, if you have a sensible emotional world
like most BPD people do, it is
understandable to great problems in
controlling your emotional reactions and
behaviors once you accumulated lots of
tension, frustration, anxiety etc.
the first step toward exerting a more
efficient control over your emotions is to
actually manifest them and to acknowledge
your needs (e.g. love, friendship,
appreciation, support, encouragement etc).
Maybe back in your childhood home there was
an implied rule to not show your feelings
and to not "annoy" others with your needs or
was like emotions and needs are bad, isn't
it? Yet, just because your parents and you
think this way, it doesn't mean that they
really are bad.
ALL have feelings, emotions, and needs. They
are natural. They are good.
The question here is "How should I manifest
my needs and feelings so that I don't annoy
others with them?"
Obviously, if you are feeling very
frustrated, you don't want to overwhelm
others with a flood of emotions, clinginess,
insecurity, or tons of questions.
Also, if you feel very tense and on the
verge to "burst out", first you might want
to relax before saying or doing something.
Deep and slow breathing with your eyes
closed is one simple and very efficient
Another one is closing your eyes and for
5-10 minutes focusing your attention on one
part of your body or on one physical
Ask siblings or trusting friends to share
your problems and help you find solutions
for your relationship problems.
Talking about your problems is always a very
good way to relieve your pain and emotional
tension. You'll feel calmer and maybe you'll
even walk away with a sound friendly advice
to implement in your life or relationships.
And if you want to overcome your BPD
totally, you can read my "Borderline
Personality Begone!" Program.
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