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"BPD Anger And Impulsivity And How To Control Them"

Learn How BPD Anger And Impulsivity Can Be Controlled And Start Healing Your Relationships...

By Michael Weisz

 

The anger and impulsivity bouts are the least frequent of the borderline personality symptoms.

However when they do occur they are very damaging in relationships. So exerting a more efficient control and management over your emotions and behavioral reactions is going to help you preserve your social and romantic relationships, thus leading your self-esteem to thrive, the overall quality of your emotional life will improve, and you'll also get the love, attention, and appreciation that you need from others

People with borderline personality get angry and impulsive only when all the other self-soothing, calming, control, and management strategies have failed.

These episodes usually occur after a longer while in the Detached Protector Pitfall.

In this pitfall, people with BPD disconnect from their emotions and give up on their needs as a strategy to gain others' attention, love, respect etc.

Although a detached BPD person might get others' validation for being so "cool" or "needing so little", the repressed emotions and needs make emotional tension, frustration, and anxiety to gradually build up to the point of no control.

This build-up phase of the emotional tension can span from a few hours up to days or even weeks.

Now, if you have a sensible emotional world like most BPD people do, it is understandable to great problems in controlling your emotional reactions and behaviors once you accumulated lots of tension, frustration, anxiety etc.

So the first step toward exerting a more efficient control over your emotions is to actually manifest them and to acknowledge your needs (e.g. love, friendship, appreciation, support, encouragement etc).

Maybe back in your childhood home there was an implied rule to not show your feelings and to not "annoy" others with your needs or demands.

It was like emotions and needs are bad, isn't it? Yet, just because your parents and you think this way, it doesn't mean that they really are bad.

We ALL have feelings, emotions, and needs. They are natural. They are good.

The question here is "How should I manifest my needs and feelings so that I don't annoy others with them?"

Obviously, if you are feeling very frustrated, you don't want to overwhelm others with a flood of emotions, clinginess, insecurity, or tons of questions.

Also, if you feel very tense and on the verge to "burst out", first you might want to relax before saying or doing something.

Deep and slow breathing with your eyes closed is one simple and very efficient relaxation strategy.

Another one is closing your eyes and for 5-10 minutes focusing your attention on one part of your body or on one physical sensation.

Ask siblings or trusting friends to share your problems and help you find solutions for your relationship problems.

Talking about your problems is always a very good way to relieve your pain and emotional tension. You'll feel calmer and maybe you'll even walk away with a sound friendly advice to implement in your life or relationships.

And if you want to overcome your BPD totally, you can read my "Borderline Personality Begone!" Program.

Do yourself a favor, take this education on controlling this area of your life, and gain back your mental and emotional peace.

I've done all the work, testing and refining in your place.

Get a handle on your BPD FOR GOOD.

You can find all the details here: "Borderline Personality Begone!"


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