And Emotional Well Being In BPD"
By Michael Weisz
can still remember moments from my past when
I just wished to know how to stop that inner
clench, turmoil, and pain I used to feel
almost every day for years.
felt despicable, that I am inherently bad,
in spite all of my efforts to be a good
Yet, I was missing a KEY point in this whole
"feeling bad and striving to be good" thing.
The key was that I've been GOOD already,
that I was inherently WORTHY, but somehow
another part of my self was having a
completely different view on this matter.
I set out to discover what was going through
my mind, why I was having that constant
inner pain, and why I was so low in my own
And one day it just HIT me!
How in the world could I feel good under my
skin while I totally despising myself?
mean, can you feel love for someone while
thinking that that person is despicable?
can't think in one way but feel something
Our feelings and emotions always reflect our
thoughts and perceptions.
And what is even MORE AMAZING about the
human mind is that we can even feel hatred
toward ourselves and others while having no
REAL proofs to back that up.
Did it ever happen to you to build a bad
impression about someone based on the bad
impressions of a third person? Do you
remember the feelings you used to have about
that person? Yet after some time you had the
chance to meet and get to know that person
and you've been left with a totally
These things happen because we humans are
inclined to build our perceptions about
people through the eyes of others.
And let me tell you that this principle goes
for your perceptions and attitudes toward
Some people grew up in cold and harsh
families, so later in life they tend to be
unkind and despise themselves.
Other people grew up in warm, loving,
supportive families, so later in life they
tend to have positive self-image, high
self-esteem, and to be gentle, loving, and
caring with themselves.
Again, we build our perceptions and
attitudes about ourselves, others, and the
world through the eyes of others and through
others' experiences that being passed on to
And things get even more mind puzzling when
some people see things in one way, and
others see the same things in a completely
That's why I use to say that people tend to
experience different realities, yet THERE IS
ONLY ONE REAL REALITY.
The REAL REALITY ABOUT YOU is that YOU
deserve to be loved, respected, and that you
How do I know this?
Well, at your birth you've been given all
these things by your Creator!
doesn't matter what others think about you,
and it EVEN doesn't matter what YOU think
about yourself! You are worthy, lovable,
respectable human being NO MATTER WHAT!
But the KEY to actually feel good under your
skin is to leave behind your painful and
traumatizing past, and reconnect with YOUR
The emotional blockage you are feeling deep
inside is there because unconsciously you
have allowed others' bad perceptions about
you to become your reality, your belief
And the almost constant emotional pain you
feel is there because the self-defeating
side of your self is conflicting with
another side of your self that holds your
inborn good attributes.
And such internal conflicts are always
signaled by your psyche through different
emotions and sensations, like pain, anxiety,
worry, depression, frustration, shame,
guilt, tension, or anger.
short, others' unloving acts toward you have
made you believe that you are unlovable,
that you don't deserve to be loved. This
belief is conflicting with your inherited
"lovable-ility", so you feel pain, anxiety,
the KEY to stop your suffering is to bring
SELF-LOVE back into your life.
And since you've been given love at your
birth, you don't need to do anything to
You don't need to get what you already have,
instead you need to RECONNECT with your
inherited love by saying "I LOVE MYSELF".
the beginning it might feel awkward to say
this to yourself. It is because your belief
system is still saying "I hate / despise
Don't let this anxiety stop you from feeding
your mind with this message of love. Don't
fight your anxiety and continue repeating "I
Indulge your mind and emotions with this
message of love you are sending to yourself
as often as you.
Now, as you probably know, BPD has several
facets. Learning to love, respect, admire
yourself once again represent just one part
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