Accelerates The Development Of Borderline
What Are The Most Destructive Factors That
Accelerate The Development Of Borderline
By Michael Weisz
There is one key aspect
in the entire combination of consistent
invalidations that accelerate the developing
process of borderline personality. It is
very painful and a hundred times more
depreciating than average invalidations.
This key aspect in the invalidating families
has such an immense depreciating power on
BPD sufferers because it is explicit,
compared to all the other usual
invalidations that are implicit. Usually it
comes up after episodes of fury and
impulsivity, but sometimes after identity
crises, "lack" of empathy, paranoia, or
black and white splitting too.
The explicit invalidations are represented
by exaggerated critique and scolding, and by
the different kinds of punishments parents
or other significant adults apply as ways to
"educate" their child.
Unfortunately these "educational" strategies
bring the exact opposite results because
they come on top of a personality that is
already deeply marked by an entire host of
self-defeating beliefs, attitudes, and
Punishments, scolding, and critique are the
most destructive aspects in borderline
personality because they reinforce negative
beliefs and attitudes in the child, like "I
am a "bad" person", "I am "evil", "I am a
despicable person", AND also reinforce the
implicit belief that manifesting emotions
and needs is bad, inappropriate, and that
they are unwelcomed.
The learned negative beliefs and attitudes
that are stored in the subconscious mind
will continue to invalidate the BPD
sufferer. By refraining to manifest emotions
and needs, the borderline person has no
other "venting" options for the accumulated
tension, anxiety, and frustration.
They will continue to build up until the
self-control mechanisms and strategies will
be overwhelmed. In such moments a new
episode of anger and impulsivity will come
up, usually followed by a new "educational"
session of punishments, scolding, or
For these reasons relaxation exercises and
routines are key components in the BPD
One simple yet very effective relaxation
exercise is called "Breathing Relaxation"
that can be found on page 91 in my new
"Borderline Personality Begone!"
This exercise consists of taking deep and
very slow breaths with the eyes closed for
at least one minute.
Deep and slow breathing is associated in the
brain with physical, emotional, and mental
calm, relaxation, and peace.
Doing this simple and safe exercise for at
least one minute will help you alleviate
your anxiety, tension, anger, or frustration
almost immediately and you will feel calm
You can enhance its effects even more by
imagining yourself sitting on a beach, on a
green meadow, or by a river.
fact you might want to try it right now!
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