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"What Is The One Main Cause Of Borderline Personality?"

Find Out The One Main Causing And Perpetuating Factor Of Borderline Personality

By Michael Weisz

 

In the previous article I mentioned the risk factors involved in the development of borderline personality. The inherited factors are increased emotional reactivity, above average IQ, and being woman.

Scientific facts and experience are showing that not all people who present the inherited risk factors develop BPD by the time they become adults, while at the same time not all people who don't have the risk factors are immune against borderline personality. Not all women have BPD, and one quarter of the diagnosed BPD cases are men.

So what is going on here?

The truth of the matter is that there is one COMMON external factor that can be identified in ALL cases of people with borderline personality. This one external factor in conjunction with the predisposing factors make up the building "ingredients" for the developing process of borderline personality.

This one common external factor is represented by what I call "The Consistent Early Life INVALIDATIONS".

Let me explain.

See, we all people have a number of physical, emotional, and mental needs. They are described wonderfully by Abraham Maslow in his "Hierarchy Of Human Needs".

Basically this hierarchy says that the lower ranked needs are more vital and bear urgency for fulfillment compared to those ranked at higher positions.

These are the five big categories of human needs from down up: Physiological needs, Security, Love and Belonging, Esteem, and Self-Actualization.

For example we are unable to concentrate on higher ranked needs like learning or self-esteem, while other basic needs like food, water, and shelter aren't met. Also we can't concentrate on security while the same basic physiological needs aren't met.

ALL borderline sufferers I have talked with have confirmed me over and over again that in their young years their needs for security, love and belonging, or esteem have been invalidated consistently. They have also confirmed the scientific results regarding parents or close adult family members being the ones to cause the consistent invalidations.

These invalidations are represented by certain experiences and situations that have invalidated one's needs in the three categories mentioned above: security, love and belonging, and esteem.

For instance invalidations against security are represented by sexual abuses, physical maltreatments, one parent leaving the family without any previous notice, and sudden and unexpected mood shifts of the parents.

Invalidations against the needs for love and belonging are represented by the parents' emotional coldness, rejection, and failing consistently in providing emotional support.

The invalidations against the need for esteem are represented by the consistent lack encouragement, depreciation in different forms, excessive critique, scolding, and/or punishments, overprotection, devaluation/minimization of achievements and maximization of failures, consistent bullying.

Usually adults invalidate their children or other people because they have as well certain mental and/or emotional problems that were caused consequently by their painful / traumatizing experiences with their parents.

In these families can be observed that certain types of mental and/or emotional problems are "passed on" by one generation to the next through certain types of invalidations and emotional traumas or shortcomings.

For BPD sufferers, these invalidations result in a number of mental and emotional attitudes, like the fear of abandonment, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, feelings of worthlessness, of being unlovable, insecure, "bad", "evil", weak, and a number of other ones.

Over time, through consistent exposure and use, these attitudes become automatic, part of one's belief system, and they make one feel, behave, and think accordingly. This is the reason why someone who thinks that he or she is worthless CANNOT feel worthy and behave in ways people with high self-esteem do.

These beliefs cause intense anxiety, depression, frustration, worry, and an almost ongoing physical and emotional pain.

If you experience these nasty emotions and internal states it is because you are already a good, worthy, lovable, important, respectful, worthy person.

But if you already have these positive attributes, how come you continue to feel miserable?

The reason is because the consistent early life invalidations have taught you to depreciate yourself, to be harsh on yourself.

When we see ourselves in positive lights we feel good because our perceptions are aligned with our inherited value.

But when we perceive ourselves in negative lights, our mind and body responds with negative emotions and internal states because our perceptions are going against our inherited value.

Throughout the first part of my "Borderline Personality Begone!" program I am going extensively into explaining how and why these self-defeating beliefs and attitudes are causing your borderline personality.

Then my Program continues with the step-by-step techniques and strategies that designed to deactivate and replace your self-defeating beliefs and attitudes with new self-validating ones in all three categories of needs.

It is the result of years of study of several psychology approaches (CBT, Psychoanalysis, Hypnosis, Positive Psychology, Social Psychology, Developmental Psychology, Child Psychology), as well as self-improvement, success philosophy, and positive thinking, AND my FIRST HAND experience from dealing with my own BPD!

Repeat: it took me YEARS!

In my program I have included only the best of the best of what works with borderline personality so that getting it you'll have a therapy system for BPD that WORKS!

Go here for all the details: "Borderline Personality Begone!"


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